'Relationship'

What is relationship? An event in life where you'll relate yourself with another person, being in/on a same ship. 

How do you keep this 'ship' moving then? Just as a common ship'll require fuel to do so, this 'ship' will need love to move.

As simple as it may sound, yet a lot of ships went sinking into the abyss of no-return. This brings in the next question, why?

'Love' is something that will actually die. Or to be more precise, murdered by us. 'Love' is actually like a baby; it requires constant care, validation, appreciation, admired, understood, time, space and many more...

Sadly, this writer here is a failure in 'love'; I realise the what, how and why about all the mentioned needs, only after I've lost my special her.

So please, feel free to stop reading cause you might ended up with disappointment or time wasted in continuing this. Still, if somehow you are curious with what this fellow has to say, do continue reading...

Ask your parents or any parents out there, is it easy to raise a baby? However, baby is a treasure. That's why many girls like to be called 'baby' by their boy. I regretted that I didn't do so. 

All of our 'baby' boy and 'baby' girl are demanding in their own ways. 'Love' requires works; don't be surprised if you are sometimes required to read, learn and practice to ensure the 'love' remains healthy and growing.

None or not all are born to be great father or mother. I know I am not. But at the same time, not all must ended to be a poor 'love'r. Learn if one is not good enough, change if one is not good enough, improve when one is not good enough...

Still...many 'ships' will sink, many 'love's are literally murdered. For many don't really stay and fix the 'leaks', don't save the 'love'. But can we point finger at the others? No! We are one of the saboteurs, one of the killers.

I am one of them. Some learnt it too late, like me. Some learnt it earlier and have the 'ship' remains operational. The rest, never learn it or even care to think about it.

Your future 'half' left cause of many reasons. Most are cause of pain; imagine the feeling of not being understood, not being cared, not being validated, not being appreciated, not being accepted, I can continue listing and it won't be nearing its end even when one of us falls asleep. 

So what to do next, if the 'ship' has sunk? As simple as it sounds, either you haul it from the depth or get another one. Then again, same might occur and life might becomes a huge cemetery for shipwrecks. 

I was blessed with someone for one year plus. Our 'ship' was not really a solid one. As time goes, leakages are everywhere. Finally, it went sunken on 09/02/2014. And from 10/02/2014 until now, I am reading and improving...

It's stupid, isn't it? To do all these, when I know that she won't return. Now, this is the question, how many people do you need to sink a 'ship' and kill the 'love'? Just One. So how many do you think is/are required to save it? Frankly, I am hoping One but it is actually Two or more.

A simple question, can you ask a 'baby' who is crying to give you his/her candy right away? No! You must do something first. So here I am, doing them... I believe in our future and I do it. Just like only when you believe the 'baby' can give you the candy, then only you will do something first before asking. 

I who have sunk the 'ship' has no right to ask. But this period of time teaches me a lot. Quoted from my her...

"Relationship is like a house. You won't buy the house when the 'lightbulb' is broken, you fix it." The 'lightbulb' could be some issues or challenges or even circumstances that seem to be hopeless. It can all be fixed...

My version of saying...
"Relationship is a 'ship'. You can choose to abandon ship when it carries leaks or you may also fix it. It is tiring but you may not need to do it alone. Fix it together if you believe and love him/her. If he/she really shares your feeling, then the 'ship' can sure run again. Love is never meant to be easy. It carries a lot of challenges. Therefore, be able to find someone who really shares your 'fix the ship' thought and will act upon it is hard".

Still, I wish for those who still have their 'ship' running. Remember that you and your love are Not the same person. That's why we say "I love you" to him/her, instead of "I love me". So don't expect they know what you want, understand automatically or even know how to behave as you wish. However, if he/she truly loves you, there could be a way to make it close to what you have in mind...

'Communicate' is the mother of 'love'. Without it, 'love' becomes weak and can easily be killed. Bear in mind about the differences between everyone and learn how to communicate and love in the way he/she prefers. He/she will do the same if they know this. Do it before the 'ship' sinks and before you have to be like me, going through this test of worthiness made by God.

I love her and I have lost her. I hope she will return but I know she won't. I am doing these for myself and also her... Like what I've said, I believe in future.

Inspired by "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus."